A recent letter to advice columnist R. Eric Thomas discusses the dilemma of hosting exclusive parties and dealing with friends feeling left out because of social media. The writer admits to being in their mid-60s and not using social media, finding it unnecessary to share daily activities online. However, after hosting upscale parties, they often receive questions from those not invited who saw photos on platforms like Facebook.
Thomas advises the writer to not feel obligated to explain their guest list choices to nosy friends. He suggests simply stating there wasn’t enough space or that they were curating a specific group for the event. The writer can also humorously brush off inquiries by saying they are “too popular” to invite everyone.
Moving forward, Thomas recommends setting ground rules for attendees to not post photos online to maintain the exclusivity of future parties. By not feeling pressured to justify their decisions, the writer can continue hosting gatherings without feeling burdened by social media scrutiny.
For more advice from R. Eric Thomas, readers can submit questions to eric@askingeric.com or follow him on Instagram. Thomas also offers a weekly newsletter at his website rericthomas.com for those seeking more guidance on various topics.
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