A man writes to advice columnist Annie Lane about his brother who took a three-month sabbatical over a year and a half ago, but has not returned to work. The brother, in his early 30s, still lives at home with their elderly parents and is not contributing financially. The writer believes that his brother’s behavior may be due to deeper issues like low self-esteem and lack of purpose.
The writer is unsure whether he should have a difficult conversation with his brother about stepping up and finding a job. Annie advises the writer to approach the conversation with curiosity rather than judgment and to offer support as a friend. She suggests that the brother may need guidance and encouragement to find his way again.
If the brother remains unreceptive to the writer’s efforts, Annie recommends discussing the situation with their parents and considering no longer enabling his prolonged unemployment. The advice column emphasizes the importance of addressing the issue with compassion and understanding.
Annie Lane’s latest anthology, “How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?”, is available in paperback and e-book formats. Readers are encouraged to submit their questions to Annie Lane for future columns.
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