During a 10-day girls trip, a woman with lung disease felt singled out by her friends for having different opinions and struggling to keep up physically. Despite agreeing to stay in pairs for safety, she was left alone at their Airbnb when she needed to rest due to swollen legs. She was also abandoned in 30-degree rain waiting for a cab that never came, leaving her stranded in a foreign country. Her best friend made excuses for their behavior, but later apologized when she broke down. Feeling hurt and abandoned, she sought advice on how to move forward.
Annie Lane, the advice columnist, empathized with the woman’s feelings of hurt and betrayal, especially by her best friend. She suggested that group dynamics can sometimes bring out the worst in people, and that the best friend may have felt pressured to go along with the others despite knowing it was wrong. Forgiveness is not about forgetting but about deciding what is best for the friendship moving forward.
Lane encouraged the woman not to feel unworthy of love and kindness, and to seek out true friends who lift her up rather than leave her behind. She advised the woman to have an honest conversation with her best friend and to determine if the friendship can continue based on genuine remorse and willingness to change.
Ultimately, the woman was urged to prioritize her own peace of mind and well-being, even if it means taking a step back from the friendship if her best friend continues to prioritize the group over their relationship.
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